I found this article the other day now i strongly agree with most of the article but as a christian i have to disagree with the the obvious implying that abstinance is a punishment but i will quote the entire article.
Oh, it's hard being a man!
By OWEN ELLIS, Contributor
"IT
IS VERY hard to be a man! (I have been trying all my life). No, I
really don't wish to be a woman, but I must confess that I often envy
women. You see, women don't experience the pressures that we men go
through just to fit in. A man has to constantly prove that he is a real
man, and almost everything we do is used to either confirm our
masculinity or bring it into question.
If a woman decides that she
wants to focus totally on her chosen career and displays little or no
interest in being a parent, she may be lauded for being a modern,
progressive, woman. If a man does the same thing we accuse him of being
afraid of responsibility. Nothing but crosses
A woman in a
crowded room is asked if she has a boyfriend. 'No mi dear, man is
nothing, but crosses! Me nuh have no use fi dem,' she replies. And she
is greeted with a chorus of approval, and nods of empathy. Imagine a
man declaring publicly that he has no use for women! Police would have
to rescue him.
Girls who behave like tomboys are accepted and
tolerated, sometimes even admired. 'That's my daughter the football
player, yu si how her calf dem tough! No bwoy cyan man-handle her!'
beams a proud father. But the poor boy that happens to be gentle,
delicate or slightly effeminate is teased, ostracised and harassed all
his life! We hear regularly about how men are worthless and careless
and uncouth, but the man who speaks well, dresses decently, acts
politely (and smells good) is viewed with suspicion.
A woman
actually complimented me once on my attire, then immediately turned the
compliment into an expression of doubt about my sexuality. 'Gee Blakka,
you look nice. I love how those shoes match your belt, and your shirt,
pants and socks are so well coordinated colour-wise. Only gay men dress
that well.' No wonder most men just give up and dress like ragamuffins.
It
is hard to be a man, especially when it comes to matters of sex and
relationships. We are always expected to make the first move; we are
expected to finance the dates, and we are under pressure to perform
exceptionally well in bed. If a man has difficulty reaching an orgasm
he accepts that he has a medical problem and seeks help, but if a woman
cannot reach her climax, it is the man's fault. Not fair.
A woman
who wishes to practice contraception has a multiplicity of options:
pill, loop, coil, diaphragm, injection, rhythm method etc. The only
option a man has is the condom (and women now have that too). And don't
tell me nonsense about abstinence. That is not an option; that is
punishment.
And women can be aroused sexually without any obvious
physical signs. They can stand in public and smile coyly without anyone
discovering that they are feeling 'woozy'. Not so for us guys. We have
a 'member' with a mind of its own, who will decide to 'take a stand' at
the most unlikely times, forcing us to walk with a crouch or to stick
both hands in our pockets in an often vain attempt to hide the most
obvious physical proof that it is indeed hard to be a man!" Plz share ur views and bare in mind i was not the author! i especially want to hear wat the ladies had to add
I found this article the other day now i strongly agree with most of the article but as a christian i have to disagree with the the obvious implying that abstinance is a punishment but i will quote the entire article.
Oh, it's hard being a man!
By OWEN ELLIS, Contributor
"IT
IS VERY hard to be a man! (I have been trying all my life). No, I
really don't wish to be a woman, but I must confess that I often envy
women. You see, women don't experience the pressures that we men go
through just to fit in. A man has to constantly prove that he is a real
man, and almost everything we do is used to either confirm our
masculinity or bring it into question.
If a woman decides that she
wants to focus totally on her chosen career and displays little or no
interest in being a parent, she may be lauded for being a modern,
progressive, woman. If a man does the same thing we accuse him of being
afraid of responsibility. Nothing but crosses
A woman in a
crowded room is asked if she has a boyfriend. 'No mi dear, man is
nothing, but crosses! Me nuh have no use fi dem,' she replies. And she
is greeted with a chorus of approval, and nods of empathy. Imagine a
man declaring publicly that he has no use for women! Police would have
to rescue him.
Girls who behave like tomboys are accepted and
tolerated, sometimes even admired. 'That's my daughter the football
player, yu si how her calf dem tough! No bwoy cyan man-handle her!'
beams a proud father. But the poor boy that happens to be gentle,
delicate or slightly effeminate is teased, ostracised and harassed all
his life!
We hear regularly about how men are worthless and careless
and uncouth, but the man who speaks well, dresses decently, acts
politely (and smells good) is viewed with suspicion.
A woman
actually complimented me once on my attire, then immediately turned the
compliment into an expression of doubt about my sexuality. 'Gee Blakka,
you look nice. I love how those shoes match your belt, and your shirt,
pants and socks are so well coordinated colour-wise. Only gay men dress
that well.' No wonder most men just give up and dress like ragamuffins.
It
is hard to be a man, especially when it comes to matters of sex and
relationships. We are always expected to make the first move; we are
expected to finance the dates, and we are under pressure to perform
exceptionally well in bed. If a man has difficulty reaching an orgasm
he accepts that he has a medical problem and seeks help, but if a woman
cannot reach her climax, it is the man's fault. Not fair.
A woman
who wishes to practice contraception has a multiplicity of options:
pill, loop, coil, diaphragm, injection, rhythm method etc. The only
option a man has is the condom (and women now have that too). And don't
tell me nonsense about abstinence. That is not an option; that is
punishment.
And women can be aroused sexually without any obvious
physical signs. They can stand in public and smile coyly without anyone
discovering that they are feeling 'woozy'. Not so for us guys. We have
a 'member' with a mind of its own, who will decide to 'take a stand' at
the most unlikely times, forcing us to walk with a crouch or to stick
both hands in our pockets in an often vain attempt to hide the most
obvious physical proof that it is indeed hard to be a man!"
Plz share ur views and bare in mind i was not the author! i especially want to hear wat the ladies had to add
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